MEET THE MCKAYS

Welcome to The Homeskoolery!

This is our homeschool story. My name is Trish McKay and I have been married to Chuck for 25 years. We have four children, two girls and two boys. The older two graduated from our family homeschool. Our oldest son is currently running a business while working two jobs and is in the process of becoming a firefighter. Our daughter went on to college on a full scholarship and she is a teacher in Oklahoma.

Even though we felt homeschooling was great for our family, Chuck and I made the decision to put the younger two in school since our son Jacub “Cub” has autism. At that time, we felt he would benefit from the special programs that were being offered in public school. Initially, Cub had wonderful teachers and he thrived. He had lots of friends and he loved school, but things started to change in third grade. Whenever Cub would struggle, his third grade teacher would humiliate and belittle him in front of the other students. At the same time, the kids started to notice he was different and those that were once his friends started bullying him both physically and emotionally. The school had a “zero tolerance policy” for bullying. I’m not really sure what that meant since they did absolutely nothing to stop what was happening to him. He was defeated and brokenhearted. One day after school Cub and our younger daughter Eden were at the kitchen counter eating a snack and I heard Cub tell her he wanted to kill himself. They never returned to public school.

That was eight years ago. Cub and Eden are now high schoolers and while it hasn’t always been an easy journey, I have no regrets. Homeschool moms aren’t gifted with an extra dose of patience. Sometimes, we even hide in the bathroom and cry, but my kids are happy and they have great self esteem. Through the process of homeschooling them, we have grown closer as a family and have a bond with them that we would not have had were they still in public school.

When we first pulled them out, there weren’t very many options for support groups or homeschool co-ops (a co-op is a school offering supplemental classes for homeschoolers). We joined the only co-op we could find in the area. It was very expensive so we only participated for one semester. Two years later, the Lord opened the door for us to start our own co-op. Our church let us use their building and we relied heavily on donations for supplies making it possible to charge very little. We ran the co-op for over 3 years and we had about 200 students. Many of our former students have become lifelong close friends and share a deep affection for each other.  

When Covid hit our world, we saw a seismic shift in what parents thought about homeschooling. Many who would have never even considered it were warming to the idea. Through the forced online public school forum, parents were shocked to see what their children had been learning and started to consider other options. Some didn’t want to send their kids to school because of Covid and the restrictions that were being implemented. Whatever the reason, while the concept of homeschooling became more acceptable, many parents still didn’t feel equipped to teach.

It was during this time that the Lord put it on our hearts to try to fill that void and The Homeskoolery was born. We hope to take all of our experiences and use them to provide a safe place for all homeschoolers. A place where you can receive the support and encouragement we all need when we make the decision to educate our children at home. We hope you and your family are blessed by The Homeskoolery and we look forward to joining you in your homeschooling journey.

 Philippians 2:3–4

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.